opposite positions.

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The two sides
It's seen in almost every thing we do
Every interaction
In the very big and important things
And in the minute and trivial ones. 

We often stay at either side of the fence
Holding our positions 
Which are mostly judgemental
Heck! Sometimes even hurling insults at the person on the other side
Disparaging their perspective 
Belittling their effort
When we could simply climb the fence to see the other's perspective. 
Maybe it isn't that simple, but it'd definitely be worth it. 

When you take someone in 
It's easy to think they are a liability 
Especially when it seems so. 
It's easy to think they have no thoughts or clue, as to how you manage to run the house
Pay the bills
Give up your privacy
Or even your way of doing things. 
It's easy to think they don't consider things
That they bring nothing to the table (as long as it's not money) 
And the truth is no one can really handle your things the way you would. 
Even when they try, something in you still feels you'd have done it better, 
That you'd have thought more carefully, 
That you'd have handled it better
Because it's yours. 
And you may be right 
But what if you're wrong? 
What if the other person considers things as much as you do? 
What if they bring as much to the table as you do, but you just don't see it, for whatever reasons? 
What if they actually thought they handled that thing just like you'd want them to? 
What if they are actually thinking, always thinking of you? 
And are grateful more than you know. 
What if they are not careless? 
What if they are more thoughtful than you know? 
What if they are overwhelmed and also want their space? 
What if they are tired of walking on eggshells? 
What if they just want to breathe... 
What if? 

When people live with you, the world tends to think you alone are making the sacrifices, and while you might be doing that a lot, the person living with you has their struggles too. 
For instance, they cannot do anything without considering how you'd feel about it, at least I say this for me. It's a lot of mental work. 
If it were their house, they'd do things without thinking twice....
But there we are, always thinking the squatter is the all- knowing- and- ever - right - lord, while the 'squatee' is the irresponsible- demanding-entitled one.... 
This life sha. 


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